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Lucas Winter
Lucas at The New York Library 1997
D.O.B.: 12/22/1974
P.O.B.: Oaxaca, Oaxaca de Juarez, Mexico
Residence: Tunisia
Occupation: Writer, Piano Player
What is your view of women?
A difficult question to respond to in brief, without specifying a bit more. For one, I strongly believe that human history up to the present has been almost entirely written by, about, and from the perspective of men. When power, knowledge, discourse, and all those other categories that mostly male intellectuals came up with are all fraught with layer after layer of XY chromosome products, we have as plausible a theory of blame as any for the confused, violent, and generally shabby path human development has taken. I have no doubt that this world would have been a better place had power been in the hands of women, and believe that women without specifically feminist agendas--speaking theoretically and without considering all the intricacies of politics--would make better future leaders than men. That said--and all that is not said--it's hard to speak about having a point of view regarding women.
Do I believe the role of women should change in the future? Not necessarily. The effects of the feminist revolution seem to have touched most developed countries, but have not yet become a reality in most of the world. That gender roles worldwide automatically follow patterns set by countries such as the United States is, in my opinion, as morally questionable as Hollywood film ethics; that women throughout the world be allowed -very roughly speaking along the Western model - to have available the freedom to make the most fundamental decisions, to have greater control over their lives than their male family members do, to be treated as people and not as baby-producing machines . . . (the list continues, and is not especially insightful, in this context) . . . all of these are basic rights, the fight for which should fall in the hands of women, and for which men such as I can but root for on the sidelines, with care not to interfere in violation of the very values which are being fought for.
What type of woman do you most appreciate?
A few quick negatives--sadly a part of reality outside of the bubble of enlightenment: I don't like noses in the air, dirty jeans or layers of makeup on women. I hate superficial women who look for money, social position or a man whose back they can climb over in order to get a richer, better connected man. Downright disgusting.
But to speak more generally, let's think, haphazardly, of some sets of opposite adjectives to better answer this question : 1. beautiful/ugly, 2. tall/short, 3. intelligent/stupid, 4. cool/lame, 5. compatible/incompatible, 6. dressed/naked, 7. rich/poor.
The first set is terribly controversial. It's false for me to deny its importance in defining the type of woman, as woman and not as human, that I most appreciate. The type of people: for that matter I am generally attracted towards beauty much more than towards ugliness. As to the second list, I generally prefer people that are close to my height or shorter, although there are some exceptions to this. Number three is almost unequivocally, when in my control, on the left side of the slash, meaning on the side of intelligence. Number four, to use a more vernacular set, is close in definition to number five, and both always side with the obvious. Number six : I think each of the two has its appropriate time and place; if speaking of general characteristics rather than specific instances, it might be rephrased as enjoying--being--(a bizarre adjective) ; It's so difficult ! ! I guess I will have to say I most appreciate women who enjoy a healthy balance between the two. With number seven, I sometimes dream of marrying a rich woman, but then realize that I prefer giving money to taking money. How will I ever be rich enough to marry? Getting yet more general, I appreciate women that appreciate me. There have been a few cases where I have not been able to return someone's love, fewer yet where my own love has been in vain. But in the first of these cases, it has been a problem of dependence, whether real or imaginary, which has gotten in my way.
And possibly, maybe, perhaps it is that after all, the quality which perhaps I most cherish in myself, which is the most important word - in this case a noun and not an adjective - I can think of in describing the woman that I most appreciate: independence.
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